Disillusionment and a New Sense of Purpose by Barbara Bassa

Disillusionment and a New Sense of Purpose by Barbara Bassa

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I have recently seen quite a few clients who were experiencing a sense of disillusionment and dissatisfaction about the work that they do. How they talked about it, sounded very much like a deep identity crisis: “I do not know who I am”, “I am not sure what I am I doing it for”, “I should be doing something else, but I am not sure, what it is”.

I became curious about this, as most of them were quite young (between 28-32 years old); too young, I thought, for it to be a mid-life crisis.

The philosopher, Richard Rohr, helped me understand this. In his book “Falling Upward”, he talks about two halves of life. One half is governed by our ego which drives us to build a container, to gain identity, to feel secure in the world. The second half is about moving beyond security and survival. It is about trust and faith, and being able to live your life with a question that is not answerable and to embrace the unknown as it unfolds …

These two halves of live are not chronological and are experienced by people regardless of their physical age. They are determined by maturity of character and the readiness to go deeper. In addition, when we did not have a sense of certitude and security in our childhood, then we can go through transition into the second half of life, sooner. We experience a reverse process of development by which we seek security and identity later in life when we should be trusting and embracing uncertainty.

Eventually, we all are destined to experience some sort of transition of our identity, whether through illness, bereavement, job loss or financial crisis. This is human nature and the mystery of life. How easy this process is, depends on our level of resistance. And, we all know what resistance feels like: “I do not want to be here”, “surely, there is more to life than this”, “I could be XYZ if…” etc.

Nature teaches us that there is a different way to approach life. Have you ever seen a leaf that is resisting to fall from the tree in autumn when it is time for winter to come? “I am not going anywhere! This is not fair!” No, the leaf is gracefully allowing the wind to take it. It falls down to become a fertile ground for a new life.

We all fall at times. We go deeper within, we question, we go through a difficulty, so that a new life can be born… So that we can be reborn stronger, wiser, more compassionate, different…

So with this in mind, I continued working with my clients and exploring this lack of purpose that they felt.

I asked them about HOW they did their work? HOW they were with their clients and colleagues?

“Yes, but I am concentrating on my work”, one of them said.

Really? Are you? And what is happening in your head whilst you are physically there, doing it?

Maybe some of these comments have crossed your mind: “this is not good”, “I should be doing something else”, “what am I doing here?”, “this job is going nowhere”?

What would happen if you stopped running a commentary about your life in your head?

What would it be like if you said “yes” to life as it presents itself?

How would your work transform?

How would your interactions with your clients change?

What opportunities would you be able to see which you have not acknowledged before?

Using a deep mindful coaching process, I have consistently witnessed my clients going through transformations and achieving results that they could not have anticipated. Some of them started seeing their work in a completely new light and doing it with a new sense of purpose. For some, new opportunities opened up as they started talking to their clients more, and engaging in what they were doing. Some, jumped and started new exciting adventures.

All of them emerged from the process with a stronger sense of purpose and feeling more able to navigate the unknown.

And for you? What is the fertile ground that you have fallen onto?

Copyright © 2017 Barbara Bassa

 

 

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Barbara Bassa is a Resilience Coach working in Sheffield and online.

She helps people to develop mental, emotional, physical and spiritual resilience to navigate through change and transition and to achieve transformational results. She uses well-researched coaching theory and practice, psychology of achievement, positive psychology, solution-focused approaches, goal mapping and communication enhancing models such as Fierce Conversations® and Non-Violent Communication®.

To discuss how Barbara could help, or to make an appointment, please contact our Sheffield office via the details below.

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I have recently seen quite a few clients who were experiencing a sense of disillusionment and dissatisfaction about the work that they do. How they talked about it, sounded very much like a deep identity crisis: “I do not know who I am”, “I am not sure what I am I doing it for”, “I should be doing something else, but I am not sure, what it is”.
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