How To Cope If University Gets You Down

How To Cope If University Gets You Down by Anne Lindley-French

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Starting university is a daunting prospect for most of us.

Will I fit in? Will I be clever enough? Will I miss home? It's a gigantic step forward from the world of A Levels and for many students it's their first time living away from home and the family and friends they have relied on over the years.

 

For most freshers everything goes to plan, though most will have moments when they worry whether everyone else is having a better time than them. For some first years the transition to university will be more tricky, possibly for one of the following reasons:

Counselling Coaching Sheffield Doncaster Onlinefeeling lonely
Counselling Coaching Sheffield Doncaster Onlinenot finding the right friendships immediately
Counselling Coaching Sheffield Doncaster Onlinemissing family, friends and pets
Counselling Coaching Sheffield Doncaster Onlinemissing a boyfriend/girlfriend and worrying about how the relationship will work at a distance
Counselling Coaching Sheffield Doncaster Onlinefeeling shy or under-confident in relation to fellow students who make it look like a breezeCounselling Coaching Sheffield Doncaster Online
Counselling Coaching Sheffield Doncaster Onlinemanaging money
Counselling Coaching Sheffield Doncaster Onlinefeeling overwhelmed by the size of the organisation and the systems which run it
Counselling Coaching Sheffield Doncaster Onlineunderstanding what tutors expect
Counselling Coaching Sheffield Doncaster Onlinefeeling like you chose the wrong course or the wrong university
Counselling Coaching Sheffield Doncaster Onlinedoing group work with strangers
Counselling Coaching Sheffield Doncaster Onlinenot doing well in an assignment
Counselling Coaching Sheffield Doncaster Onlinefinding the work challenging
Counselling Coaching Sheffield Doncaster Onlinenot getting on with people you live with
Counselling Coaching Sheffield Doncaster Onlinefeeling overwhelmed by the change
Counselling Coaching Sheffield Doncaster Onlinecomparing yourself to others and worrying that you don't match up

 

If one or more of these things start to get on top of you, the most important thing is that you do not suffer in silence. Starting to worry alone, becoming anxious and feeling like we're the only one struggling is a an awful feeling. Anyone in this situation needs to remember a few things:

Counselling Coaching Sheffield Doncaster Onlineyou are trying your best
Counselling Coaching Sheffield Doncaster Onlineyou're not the only one feeling daunted
Counselling Coaching Sheffield Doncaster Onlineyou will find friends you gel with over time
Counselling Coaching Sheffield Doncaster Onlineyou can step up to the work (you got the grades and will be able to cope once you get your head round how the new system works)
Counselling Coaching Sheffield Doncaster Onlineyou deserve to be supported through difficult moments
Counselling Coaching Sheffield Doncaster Onlineyour family and friends would hate to know you were glum and didn't tell them - they will want to help
Counselling Coaching Sheffield Doncaster Onlineyour Course Leader, tutors and Student Support Officers do care and can help - we help people every year and know it's a big transition

 

Once you've given yourself a break, there are some things to do to make things easier:

Counselling Coaching Sheffield Doncaster Onlinetell your family how you feel - mums and dads always to prefer to know the truth so that they get the chance to help, it would really cut them up if they knew you were struggling alone
Counselling Coaching Sheffield Doncaster Onlinego home if you need to, as often as you need to, until the homesickness/loneliness fades and your new life gets easier
Counselling Coaching Sheffield Doncaster Onlinejoin clubs or find a volunteering opportunity (go to the Student Volunteer Center in your university) to fill your spare time and meet like-minded people
Counselling Coaching Sheffield Doncaster Onlinedrop in or make an appointment to see the Student Support Officer for your course - they know how to help and do it for a living
Counselling Coaching Sheffield Doncaster Onlinetalk to your Course Leader or any of the tutors on your course (at the beginning/end of a lecture or as you pass them in the corridor), they can guide you through the academic side of things and will want to know if you're finding things difficult
Counselling Coaching Sheffield Doncaster Onlineif you're nervous about talking to your Course Leader or tutor send them a direct email to ask questions or arrange to have a chat (if they don't reply, send the email again the next day - if they're busy they might not reply quickly enough, the second email will remind them that they haven't done it yet)
Counselling Coaching Sheffield Doncaster Onlineif you're a dog-lover and would like to go for a walk or share some four-legged company, sign up for BorrowMyDoggy.com and see if your canine pal can bring a smile back to your face for a few hours
Counselling Coaching Sheffield Doncaster Onlineif you've tried some of the above (or don't feel like you can) and things haven't improved, go to the University Counselling Service and make an appointment - the Counsellors understand just how tricky a new life can be

Remember - we all have our difficult moments, sometimes they feel overwhelming, we all deserve a helping hand when it's tough and talking about our worries will help. We haven't failed and we're not weak if we accept the help of others - but we do need to let them know that big changes we're living through are tough.

 

 

Anne Lindley-French Counsellor Expats Online Anne Lindley-French MBA, MA, MBACP, FHEA is a Counsellor in Sheffield and founder of the Beacon Counselling & Coaching Group. She draws on a business and teaching background developed as a Senior and Visiting Lecturer at Sheffield Hallam University Business School and Sheffield University Management School, an Investment Banking Consultant at Hogarth Davies Lloyd and Management Trainee at Ford Credit Europe.

Anne is straight-forward, supportive and persistent, which she hopes contributes to her ability to work highly effectively with clients who want to get to the bottom of current situations and optimise their lives.

To discuss how Anne could help, or to make an appointment, please contact her via the details below.

Contact the Beacon Counselling & Coaching Group

Sheffield Call Beacon Counselling Coaching Groupcall 0114 229 5737 Text Beacon Counselling Coaching Grouptext 07961 190749 Email Beacon Counselling Coaching Groupemail anne@bccg.org.uk
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How To Cope If University Gets You Down
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How to cope if university gets you down: 15 reasons why it might get tricky. 7 things to remember. 7 things to do if it's tough. Straight talking from Counsellor and University Lecturer Anne Lindley-French.
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